I am not sure if I am in the correct thread...I am just looking for some type of comfort/source of encouragement. I am in the pits of hell emotionally and do not know where to turn. My heart physically hurts and I can barely make it through work. I am on some meds and am going to my therapist tomorrow. DNC was performed a week ago...went for my reg. appt. and there was no heartbeat--baby stopped growing at 10 1/2 weeks. I feel empty andsad.....will eventually try again and have a 2 year old now, but for this baby.......I hurt.........I am just very sad.


Jaime

Hi Jaime. First off, I am so sorry you have had to endure a miscarriage. It really hurts to lose a baby. I lost one a 24 weeks and there is just nothing like it. There are many other moms on this forum that have gone through the same thing that can totally relate to how you are feeling. Cling to God during this trying time, he will be your rock, I will send up prayers for you as well. (((hugs)))

And [welcomesign] to C-moms!

Jaime I am so sorry for your loss. I had 2 early miscarrages between my first two kids. It is so heartbreaking, and so many people just don't understand. Hugs to you!!!

I'm glad you found c-moms! There are quite a few ladies here that have been in your shoes. and this place is a great source of encouragement.

I personally have not been where you are, but all I can say is don't let Satan get the victory. He wants you as broken as can be... He wants your faith to dissolve and if you allow it, everything you have lost will be for nothing. I hope that doesn't sound to forward, I truly am saying it out of love. Satan will destroy you but God can restore you. I'll be praying for you Jaime. A close friend of mine lost her baby 4 days after he was born and we have talked a lot about things. I never pretend to understand or KNOW how she feels. But I do know that she has allowed God to pour His grace upon her and her husband and she is making it through life. I know you can too. Hugs.

loosing a baby even early on is hard, especially if you had been trying...and even not. You have to grieve the loss of this baby. I lost my first at 9 week, and it was SO hard for months after. I had resentment toward my sister who became pregnant a few weeks after my miscarriage. You need to grieve this loss and cling to God to mend your heart. One thing that helped me is I gave my baby a name, Nathaneal Howard. I still miss Nathaneal and still think of him, but God has healed my heart and I know He will for you too.

Welcome onto the boards. I too, endured a miscarriage at 12 weeks last year. I found it difficult because society has such a hard time with helping you with your grief of an early loss. Anyways- grief cycles and it won't be this hard all the time. Cling to our Lord who knows heartache... he will walk with you through this time. I pray that His comfort will dwell heavily in your heart and minister profoundly to you.
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loosing a baby even early on is hard, especially if you had been trying...and even not. You have to grieve the loss of this baby. I lost my first at 9 week, and it was SO hard for months after. I had resentment toward my sister who became pregnant a few weeks after my miscarriage. You need to grieve this loss and cling to God to mend your heart. One thing that helped me is I gave my baby a name, Nathaneal Howard. I still miss Nathaneal and still think of him, but God has healed my heart and I know He will for you too.


I can basically ditto this - we miscarried our first at 9 weeks and two of my sisters were only 2 and 4 weeks behind so was hard to watch them be at the same stage that we would have been at. It also helped us to name the bub - Jessie (as it can be both boy or girl) and has helped that we can talk about Jessie between us. It is hard especially when others don't recognise it as much of a loss. Yes we are "allowed" to be sad for a week or two but then it seems that everyone expects you to be "over it". Honestly though - it's been two years since we lost that little one and I don't think you ever fully get over it. It does get easier though. I wrote a letter to Jessie around the time she/he would have been born which really helped me to let go and move on. I shared it on here at the time and if you think it would help - just let me know and I will send it to you in private message if you like.

Praying for you hun and hope you find comfort in God. Hope you also find the support you need on here. [huddle]

Hi Jaime. I am very sorry to hear of your loss. I, too, have lost two babies. My second loss was just this past April at 9 weeks. My first loss was at 10 weeks and had a DNC. That was over 8 years ago but I still remember the devestation I felt and it seemed no one understood. All I wanted to do is lay in bed and not be bothered by anyone. I will never "get over" those losses (like some expect)...those babies will always be in my heart and I will always think about how old they would have been. Its ok to grieve for your baby and if you need to name him or write a letter to her, than you should...keep leaning on the Lord...he understands even when it seems nobody around you does. Plus, we all are here to pray for you, friend.

As you can see, you are not alone here! Many of us have experienced this type of loss. I too lost my little one at 17 weeks and a few days....DNC here too. It was best for me because I couldn't emotionally deal with staying 'pregnant' and waiting for my body to naturally 'lose' the baby with no end known.
What you are experiencing is NORMAL! You might see if you have a local support group you can go too. I help with a local group that deals specifically with healing from the loss of a child through miscarriage, stillbirth, or death within the first two weeks of life. Ask your local hospital if you're so inclined. It can be very healing...and it give you hope when you see others dealing with the same loss and then successfully having another baby in the future.
Hang in there!

In the last year I have had 2 surprise pregnancies that ended in miscarriage. The first at 7 weeks, the second just last month at 11 weeks. It is so hard in todays society to be able to grieve these losses properly. People just don't understand. For me, I found out I was pregnant and lost both babies within a week of learning they were there. Even knowing for such a short time, my heart still breaks thinking of what might have been.

I am praying for you. You found a great site with lots of support offered. Peace be with you.

Thanks to everyone who has replied and is praying. Please just continue as i work through this. Loss is nothing new to me--I lost my boyfriend at 18 in a freak accident, BUT having that baggage does make loss extremely emotional and confusing---along with God's love and protection. I just need prayers and am taking it one at a time. Thanks again for all the encouragement.

Sincerely

Jaime Goza

I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks in between our 2nd and 3rd daughters, so I know the pain. Eventually it will get easier. The memory is always there and that baby was as much my child as any of my other 4 kids, I just never got to meet it. It is a comfort to know that baby is in heaven with the Lord and I will get to meet it someday. Sometimes people think since it was "just a blob of tissue" it shouldn't hurt so badly or be such a real loss. That isn't true. Remember the Lord is with you and if you need to cry or scream, He will hold you tight and not let go. He knows what it is like to lose a child too. The hurt and disappointment might be confusing right now and you may not FEEL very loved, but He is there always. Love you lots and welcome to C'Mom's. It's a very special group of ladies.[welcomesign]

So sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks and another at 6 weeks. It's one of the worst things I had to go through. I will be praying for you. [praying]