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alleesmama
07-25-2009, 10:41 PM
I really try not to be an anxious mommy, but Allee's starting kindergaten, and she's my first, so I have no idea about this whole school thing!

Are there things I should be doing to get her prepared? We did the Round-Up back in April.

Because she had a rough start in life (multiple types of drug exposure in utero, multiple foster homes, living with auntie that she calls mommy, been on ADD meds for several months), I thought I would go in to meet the teacher and give her some background on Allee. Allee tends to be a talker when she gets nervous, so I could see her saying things that would necessitate a conference if not explained early on.... Allee needs some extra time to get used to new places too, so I thought I would see if the week before school started maybe we could pop in to the classroom to show her around and introduce her to the teacher one more time before school starts. But at the same time, I don't want to be that "problem parent" taking up a lot of the teacher's time with stupid little things, ya know?

They said that the teachers and assistants can't help with redressing after pottying, so I have started buying everything elastic waisted. She's got buttons and snaps figured out when *facing* her, but not when they are on her own clothes, LOL. I have snap and button jeans for her to wear at home to practice those skills.

Academically, I have little fear :D She knows her ABCs, knows the sounds of each letter and how to write them, knows how to write her first and last name (working on her remembering how to spell her middle name) along with many family names, recognises a few sight words, can count to 100 only missing a few numbers (usually she starts getting 70, 80, 90 confused, and when she gets to 99, she wants to follow it with 90-10 still). She's got colors and shapes down.

Socially, I have minor worries, but I think they are normal worries--she tends to get lost in a crowd and won't speak up, or the exact opposite, LOL, she will decide that she's the leader and will boss all the other kids around. I'm a little concerned about her behavior around friends, because she has ADD, and even on medicine has occasional bad days like anyone does, when she's crankier and in a foul mood, which usually will mean she doesn't want to take turns, gets possessive, etc. But, we are talking to the dr in 2 weeks about that, to see if we should change her dose a little for school time.

Physically, I don't have any worries either. She's a runner, jumper, climber, can already pump on the swings, so I don't think she'll have the issues that I did in school. Hahaha, I had my first pair of athletic "tennies" when I was 8 years old, until then, I had only patent leather Mary Janes or Saltwater Sandals. Neither work well for running, kicking, playing in PE, so I had a *bad* start at all things athletic. Allee is much better than I am in that area already!

So really, its just the minor things.... Is there a way to make starting kindgarten easier for her? How do I keep my tears in check (I mean, its my *baby* and she's not a *baby* if she's going to kindy!)?? Any hints you have to making things go smoother??

NZMummy
07-26-2009, 01:08 AM
It sounds like Allee is more prepared than many children in a lot of ways - well done Mommy! I have found that our kids often surprise us when it comes to starting school. They don't have as many 'what ifs' as we do as mothers and they tend to just take it all in their stride. My ds started school in March - and it seemed like it wasn't even such a big deal for him as it was for me. It is so hard to know ahead of time what issues will come up once they start school (if any) - some of the things that we are concerned about often end up to be no problem at all for our kids. But I see absolutely no harm in talking to the teacher as much as you feel necessary. From my experience teachers like to see parents who are involved and interested in how things are going - and who are willing to work with them for the best interests of their child. In fact continued communication with the teacher is really important at this stage - even if it is a just a quick check with her/him before or after school on occasion. Also, make sure that Allee is comfortable telling you anything at all that is bothering her when she starts - I like asking ds about the best and worst parts of his day (although often he just tells me everything was good now). I have also talked a bit with ds about friendship and what a good friend is like (being a good friend and having good friends) - this was really helpful because he really opened up about some issues he was having at school. Just keep those communication lines open and you will be fine :).

irishmum2boys
07-29-2009, 12:21 AM
sounds like you have one very special little girl there who has overcome some very difficult circumstances in her life and I have no doubt she will do awesome in Kindergarten. That is wonderful that you went to see her teacher and explained her background, very wise of you!
I think it is very normal to have tears, my oldest ds will be going into 1st grade this year and honestly I have a feeling I will cry on his first day as he gets onto his bus even though we have done this before! Don't feel bad about crying! It is a very big day for you both!
Good idea on the elastic waist clothes! I am guessing Allee is in a regular K class since they can't help with dressing at potty time!? In regards to preparing your dd, some practical tips I was thinking of was having her go with you to buy a new backpack for school and her supplies for K. Has she been able to meet her teacher? Take her to the school to play on the equipment over the vacation time.
Looking forward to hearing how things go for your little one :)