okay ladies
I'm really having a hard time here. Dh and I decided that we want to wait to find out the gender when "she" is born. BUT, my dh isn't real firm on this and never was really because he thinks it would be nice to find out and then have a yard sale to get rid of the other genders clothes that I have packed away. I want to find out because I see soooo many cute things and I really want to buy them.

At the same time I think it would be so much fun to shout "It's a ....." when the baby is born. :sigh: :Big long sigh:
In my heart I really feel as if it's a girl, and I was going to just buy some really cute girl clothes having faith that I was right. But dh won't let me :???:
So now I'm struggling. I have a u/s on the 21st of this month. If I get through it without asking what it is then I won't have another chance to know until birth. Of course it isn't guaranteed that the baby will even show the goods or that it is 100% accurate.
What should I do? I know that in the end it's my choice, but if it were you, would you wait? Did you wait?

Oh my goodness, Esther, you must already know how this thread is going to go. heehee! :lol: Everyone will agree with you that it certainly 'is' your choice. And, there's absolutely no wrong choice, either. Wanting to find out all depends on your personality and what's 'more' important to you. The hard part is, both choices are wonderful! :mrgreen:

I'm a member of the 'find out now' camp. I love calling baby by name asap, and visualizing her/him. And as you all must know by now, I'm miss super-decorator. MUST begin decorating the nursery as soon as I know. Keeps me busy, otherwise I go crazy in anticipation. LOL! And, oh YES, the shopping! Shopping, shopping, shopping! [heartbeat] Even that is about personal preference. I've never been into gender neutral anything; clothes, nurseries, accessories. But lots of people like them a lot and enjoy the versatility, as well as being able to use everything for the next baby, regardless of gender. To each their own, huh?

I know you'll be so blessed with whatever you decide, Esther. You simply cannot go wrong either way!

Love you, dear girl! [hug]

[lovingsmiley]

Joy [welcomewave]

I would find out for sure! Is this your 3rd? That's when we found out, when we already had one of each, so that we could better prepare. I was very glad I did!
Good luck with you decision!!:-D

I like to know, too. Like Joy mentioned, I like to use the baby's name when I talk to him/her. And I really want to know if we will be good to go with all this boy stuff or if I am going need some pink in my life, too.

I voted for "Wait! It'll be a wonderful surprise!"

My reasoning???

Well, I DO know we are having a girl and this is our first. Part of me wishes we would have waited to find out. But since it's our first it's hard to get things set up. BUT if you have a girl and a boy already then it'd be super cool to wait and see! The cute clothes and room decorations will still be there after the babe is born. Although you'll then have 3 kiddos to care for too. I don't know. I just think it sounds like a great set up to have that really cool surprise at the end.

But no matter what, like the others said, it's a surprise either way and it's totally a personal preference. :D

Can't wait to hear what you decide to do!

I voted for find out now! I did really like already calling the baby his name even before he was born, I liked knowing so I could get everything ready. I think it would have driven me crazy not to know.. lol.

I voted for "Wait" but that's just bcuz that's what I'd do. It is all down to personal choice. For me, I love hearing my dh announce the sex rather than some sonographer that I don't know from Adam. That for *me* just makes the wait so worth it. Plus I like to keep other people in suspense :twisted: haha. With Abby we found out what she was, we told everyone her name and I really felt like there wasn't much to reveal when she was born. With Micah it was great to be able to announce his birth, his sex, his name, weight and all that at the same time. I felt like people got more out of it if that makes sense. Not that it really matters all that much about everyone else, but I personally enjoy keeping everything a secret until the big day. I just think it's funner (yes bad grammer i know, but it's funner to say funner....lol) to keep the suspense building until the big day. And I'm not normally a person who can wait for surprises, I like to try to guess what my Christmas presents are...lol. But for some reason I love waiting til the birth to find out the sex. Plus dh prefers it that way too.

Just go with what ever you and your dh prefer. :mrgreen:

I voted to wait cause that's what we did and we loved it! I had three ultra sounds but we were determined to wait it out. In my experience, it was SO awesome to hear the, "It's a boy!" It made a wonderful ending to a beautiful, yet exhausting day!

Besides, it's still just as fun to shop after their born! ;)

I am in the find out now camp. My reasoning is a lot like your DH. If you find out after the birth you are going to be so busy with the new baby that the thought of having a yard sale would be overwhelming. If you know now you can declutter the stuff that you won't need and then not have to worry about it once the baby is born.

I say find out now! Seriously, you're going to keep the rest of us in suspense too? lol. But i'm like Joy, I wanted to be prepared with proper clothes and decor with both of mine. Even proper toys, although, that was probably a bit silly of me as newborns don't really play with toys... But Nathaniel had a firetruck and everything before he was even born. LOL!


And I'm REALLY impatient!! lol :-)

I'd say go with what you think would give you the most satisfaction in the end, though. If you really want a big surprise, that's great, but if you really want to be able to pick out stuff earlier, then find out. I guess it's about what you value more.... preparing and having a name picked out etc, or whether you value insane anticipation and then large excitement. Although IMO a birth is exciting enough without finding out if the baby's got a penis. lol.

Esther, I voted find out now! Like a lot of the other ladies, I loved being able to call the babe by name, get clothes ready, etc. I just wanted to find out as much as possible about our baby! Esp. with ds#2 - we found it made it a bit more real for ds#1 to be able to talk about his brother, and call him by name, and tell him that it was a little boy like him, who would eventually be big enough to play cars and legos with, lol. Ds#1 used to "talk" to his brother by putting his mouth against my belly and calling out to him *giggle*. He was only 25 months when ds#2 was born, so it was super cute!

Then, when dh brought ds#1 to the hospital to see the babe, as soon as he saw him his eyes got huge, and he said "Oh, is that my *insert name*?" Too cute!

Ummm, so, yeah, I like finding out before, lol.

But, of course, like others have said, it's totally up to what you and your dh prefer!

you guys are soooo funny! Cheese your last comment had me laughing out loud!!!
I think it would be a great experience to wait and find out, but I didn't even consider that fact that after the baby is born I won't really be going out much. Shopping for clothes means driving one hour away, and being out all day with a newborn, a toddler and a 5 year old just doesn't sound like a adventure I want to take on!

So we shall see and I'll let you know what the final choice will be!

There is always online shopping and I'm sure friends and family could help you organise and run a yard sale. :-D

I got so much clothes as gifts when Micah was born that I didn't even need to shop for him til he was like a year old.

Just more thoughts to help with the indecision....LOL.

why will you need clothes? You've had both a girl and a boy, so you should be set...at least with NB and 0-3 stuff. :-)

WAIT!!!

Awww... But there's nothin' like buying some new things 'for' the new baby. Hand-me-downs are wonderful, but.... [love] .... I just loved all the early preparations. Such a dreamy, sentimental feeling. I'm sure not everyone feels that way, though. Some of us are just weird I guess. LOL! :lol:

[pregnantside]

Joy [welcomewave]

why will you need clothes? You've had both a girl and a boy, so you should be set...at least with NB and 0-3 stuff. :-)

WAIT!!!

actually I sold a lot of abby's baby clothes. I only kept the ones I loved. Boy stuff I have. But i do agree with Joy, buying new clothes is always a lot of fun, expecially if it's a good deal![halo]

We're still tossing it around. dh basically put it on me to make the final say so.
I'll just have to pray about it and if God wants me to wait then maybe He just won't allow the baby to work with the tech! hahhaha

I'm one of those gals who likes to know ahead of time. I *think* at times it would be neat not to know, and to have to wait... but then... my curiosity gets the better of me. And hub just would NOT wait... no way jose. So, no matter what, we're finding out. ::snort::

I just find joy in knowing what's in there, being able to name her and call her by name. I dunno. I feel more "Attached", I guess? I'm sure there are mom's on here who did NOT know and felt just as attached... so I think it's just a personal pref. :D

ETA:

I *love* your avatar pic, Esther!!!

thanks Jenny - pooh! :mrgreen: hahahahaa :I just made myself laugh:

I think I might just have the tech write it down and put it in a envelope. hahaha

I haven't voted yet b/c I just don't know what I would even do. We didn't know the sex of our first but we did our 2nd and to be honest if we had a thrid I think I might not find out just b/c we already have 2 of the same sex and it would be just so much fun to wait until it happens. We never have been concrete on a name either until baby is born, I like to have some picked but we liked to see baby first and then name them :)

sorry I am no help, but I do understand the wanting to buy things though :)

thanks Jenny - pooh! :mrgreen: hahahahaa :I just made myself laugh:

I think I might just have the tech write it down and put it in a envelope. hahaha


Okay now... now you're pulling out the "big guns"... that's my "family name"... oy vey, woman! You know, the kind of name everyone thinks is cute, but you. ::snort::

Okay now... now you're pulling out the "big guns"... that's my "family name"... oy vey, woman! You know, the kind of name everyone thinks is cute, but you. ::snort::


awwww, well aren't I kinda like family ! [rotfl]

i'm still laughing! hahahaa