By Jodie Lynn
Our son is playing fall soccer for the first time. There are countless parents who drop their kids off for practices. However, I have noticed that it is these boys who act up and end up causing problems for the other players by disobeying the coach and agitating the other kids. As a concerned parent, should I try to correct their behavior or say something to the coach or to their parents?
ANSWER FROM READER:
If the coach is not actually catching these kids agitating the other ones, you might have to alert him to the situation. Sometimes, coaches are pretty busy trying to focus on the kids that want to be there to play and be a part of the team; thus, he may not be too concerned with those who do not. Since it's the beginning of the year for soccer, maybe give the obnoxious kids a couple of weeks to settle down. If they don't and the coach still is not doing anything, either approach the kids or their parents or point it out to the coach himself. - James Williams in Fort Meyers, FL
Practices are not considered particularly serious times for youth sports, especially when it comes to young boys who have a lot of pent up energy after school. If their parents are not around to monitor their behavior, it only adds more temptation to blow off steam in disruptive ways. Since your son is new, maybe start by asking the coach if there are any other new boys. If most have been with the team before, he probably knows what they're doing and when. Once you get a list of the kids' names, which the coach will hand out, you could always try to get to know the players by introducing yourself and talking a little to each one. This way, if they continue to cause problems, you can call them by their names and make a comment. Most people, even children, are easier to approach if you're already on a first name basis with them. Hang around and maybe chat about things in general to the parents a bit after they get there to pick up their boys. It doesn't have to be targeted at the unruly behavior just yet. If there is not an assistant for the coach, perhaps you can volunteer. This would be an excellent way to get to know both the parents and the kids. If none of this seems to clear up concerns, just ask the coach directly if there's anything you could do to help thwart their behavior. They may just need to know that not only are you aware of what they're up to but also that you have the coach's attention regarding it.
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