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Preschool Requires Total Potty Training

By Jodie Lynn


We have been on a waiting list for two years for our son to be able to attend a specific preschool. We were just notified that he will be able to do so this fall. However, he will only be two-and-a-half when school begins and it states that he has to be totally potty trained. According to their rules, if he has more than two accidents, he will be dismissed. We were wondering if they can really kick him out for having an accident and if we can expect them to at least help a little if needed.


It sounds like the preschool is just out to make money with little to no realistic ideas or love for young children. If I were you I would find another preschool. - J.M.N. in Little Rock, AR


It is my personal opinion that your son shouldn't even be in a preschool at the age of two-and-a-half. I think that the request that the preschool is making of him is pretty far-fetched and it would definitely cause me to rethink the school itself and these outlandish rules. Most daycares or schools that offer classes for children in this age group know upfront that there will be accidents and they certainly should be willing to help with the process. If you have legal questions, find out if they are accredited with the NAEYC (National Association for the Education of Young Children). If so, you could always call 1-800-424-2460 and voice your opinion and ask any questions. There are very few children who are totally potty trained at this early age, especially boys. You will be putting your son and yourself into a no-win and highly stressful situation, specifically because you are going to begin training now to get ready for this fall. Not only will he sense the urgency as well as frustration inherent the process from himself as well as from you, but he may feel pressured and shamed into using a big potty when he cannot fully physically, and perhaps emotionally, do so. The whole experience could be quite negative and may result in future potty issues. If I were you, I would just wait for the spring of the following year or even for the following fall. This way you can take your time and not expect the exact results so quickly.

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© Jodie Lynn
Jodie Lynn is an award-winning internationally syndicated family/health columnist and radio personality. Her syndicated column Parent to Parent has been successful for over 10 years and appears in newspapers, magazines, newsletters and throughout the Internet. She is a regular contributor to several sites including,,,,, and Lynn has written four books and contributed to three others, one of which was on Oprah and has appeared on NBC in a three month parenting segment. Her latest books are "Mom CEO (Chief Everything Officer) - Having, Doing and Surviving It All!" (June 2006) and "Syndication Secrets - What No One Will Tell You!" (March 2006).
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