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New Year's Resolution for Stay At Home Moms


By Jodie Lynn
www.ParentToParent.com



Every December, we make New Year's Resolutions. Keeping them is a daunting task. Although we try very hard to stick with our new goals, all of a sudden, we see ourselves slipping back into our old habits and comfortable lifestyles. We take a look around to see if anyone else is doing better or worse with their new plan and slowly migrate towards that individual or group of friends. Just to make us feel better, of course. For moms, New Year Resolutions are extremely hard to stay on track with, especially if you are a stay-at-home-mom with young children underfoot. This doubles if a new baby has been added to the family. It triples if you are a married but single parent, (traveling spouse and almost never home). Between new baby, toddler, maybe other children, traveling spouse, and tons of other responsibilities, you're most likely getting little to almost none sleep.

We worry about our weight, the kid's weight, the dog's weight, the cat's weight, it's a constant thorn in our side. We agonize over finances, getting organized maybe even keeping our house in tip top order and serving nutritious home cooked meals and fitting that new exercise regime into our overscheduled life or moving forward in our career goals and a zillion other things. Is it any wonder we toss out our New Year Resolutions early -- heck no!

This year, why not implement a doable plan instead of shooting for the stars? Life might be less hectic, you will be a little less rushed, perhaps happier and the kids might even take notice that you seem calmer and they will do the same.

How about just having one Umbrella New Year Resolution and tiny sub-umbrella goals below? If there was one thing that could make a huge difference in our lives, having more time would be the winner. So, what's the plan to getting more of it? It's delegating household chores, of course.

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If your kids are between the ages of 2 to 19, delegate various chores according to their age. Even today, moms seem to still be the main individual in following through with more than 90% of household duties. Beginning each morning for one week, write down every single task you do and estimate how much time it took. It doesn't matter how small or insignificant the chore or activity may seem to appear, write it down. At the end of seven days, review your list. You will see that every little task that seems terribly easy to do and painfully small in importance will significantly add to the total time you spend each day, week, month and year, that someone else might be able to be doing. Unless you see it written on paper, it's not often thought of as a chore or "action" that could be assigned to someone else.

I've said for years that Moms are the real CEOs in life; thus the reason I created various terms and logos to help spread the validation of motherhood and why merchandise sold on my site can be graced with the perfect one for any mom. Some variations are "Mom CEO (Chief Everything Officer)" and "Mommy CEO (Chief Executive Officer) and there are many others. Keep in mind that just like with any top notch CEO, the more responsibilities that are delegated, the more success will be achieved for everyone concerned. Thinking of your household as a family unit (a corporation) with goals, shared responsibilities, and doable plans, is actually a healthy mindset, especially if you will delegate and follow through on letting someone else do it -- and NOT redo what they did.

Even a 2-year-old can help to pick up toys off of the floor, couch, coffee table, etc., and maybe even help with bringing diapers, clothes for the day, wipes, snack cups, etc., to you while you are doing something else. They can even gather clothes that need to be washed and place them in a basket. These may seem like such tiny bits of time that you could certainly do quicker and better, that really wouldn't impact much of anything. Nevertheless, every little task adds to the total of your daily schedule and can fill each day with these simple, yet frequently repeated actions. And, this is only a couple of examples of a 2-year-old...think of all of the other things older family members could help with!

By delegating little pockets of time in responsibility to others, you will be amazed at the sum of time you will gain to do more things inside the sub-umbrella plan. Depending on the ages of your children, you might gain enough time to be able to exercise without feeling guilty, go to lunch with a friend (eventually, maybe even once a week), become reacquainted with the other adult in your home, (I think he's called a husband), take a course, entertain friends (like a real grown-up party BC -- Before Children), actually complete a short conversation with someone on the phone, pick up a book, open it and WHOOHOO - read more than half of a page and who knows, even half of a chapter! Begin cooking and freezing healthier meals and preparing nutritional snacks for your family. Wow - things are looking good and it's now only March which means the possibilities for the rest of the year are priceless!

Just try it and reap the benefits in making not only the household run smoother but in feeling similar to a CEO of a large corporation. Your "corporation" just happens to be your family, and OK, maybe it's a tad smaller, but it's no less significant. You are indeed the CEO -- it's just that your title, Mom/Mommy happens to be your name. For example, instead of Jack Welch, CEO, yours is Mom, CEO -- which is waaaaaaay more important. He runs General Electric -- big deal. You run, organize, create, and form the body and soul of the upcoming leaders that will influence every minute of every day and maybe even every life in tomorrow's society -- MUCH MORE IMPORTANT!

See, I told you Moms were the real CEOs in life, the true leaders of today, tomorrow and the spirit of the future...what do you know -- Moms really do deserve the CEO title before anyone else.

Now, get out there and delegate for the future of our country, to preserve your sanity and to open those sub-umbrellas, which are bursting with new adventures!

© Jodie Lynn
Jodie Lynn is an award-winning internationally syndicated family/health columnist and radio personality. Her syndicated column Parent to Parent has been successful for over 10 years and appears in newspapers, magazines, newsletters and throughout the Internet. She is a regular contributor to several sites including eDiets.com, KeepKidsHealthy.com, ClubMom.com, BabyUniverse.com, CatholicMom.com, MainStreetMom.com and MommiesMagazine.com. Lynn has written four books and contributed to three others, one of which was on Oprah and has appeared on NBC in a three month parenting segment. Her latest books are "Mom CEO (Chief Everything Officer) - Having, Doing and Surviving It All!" (June 2006) and "Syndication Secrets - What No One Will Tell You!" (March 2006).
Please visit www.ParentToParent.com for details on her new radio talk show, Inside Parenting Success.

 

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