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Letting Kids Do Their Own Homework

By Jodie Lynn


My nine-year-old son just started fourth grade. The teacher has asked parents not to check homework. Since this has been a very important part of his life up to this point, why all of a sudden is it a bad thing to do? Don't too many errors in assignments create frustration in children?


Depending on your son and how much help he really needs, do it anyway. This is a new teacher who does not know your child or what he personally needs, at least at this point. If you just all of a sudden shy away from his homework assignments, he will definitely make mistakes and become frustrated. He is at an age where parental support and attention is critical. Do what you think will benefit your son. - W. W. in New York City, NY


The teacher is most likely trying to encourage her fourth grade students to become more independent and responsible. She probably wants them to learn from their mistakes in class the next day rather than having parents help them by checking the answers, correcting them and getting each one right. One of the main reasons for this new independence is to get students better prepared for the fifth grade where, in many schools, the kids have more than a couple of teachers and sometimes as many as five. If your son is allowed to assume more of the responsibility for his grades now, he will be much better organized and better equipped to think on his own and follow through with the more difficult assignments in the upcoming year. There is no reason why you can't be around for him to ask a question about something, just don't check it, correct it or do it for him. He may very well become frustrated in the beginning. However, more towards the middle of the year, and certainly by the end of the school year, you will be amazed at how grownup he has become.

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© Jodie Lynn
Jodie Lynn is an award-winning internationally syndicated family/health columnist and radio personality. Her syndicated column Parent to Parent has been successful for over 10 years and appears in newspapers, magazines, newsletters and throughout the Internet. She is a regular contributor to several sites including,,,,, and Lynn has written four books and contributed to three others, one of which was on Oprah and has appeared on NBC in a three month parenting segment. Her latest books are "Mom CEO (Chief Everything Officer) - Having, Doing and Surviving It All!" (June 2006) and "Syndication Secrets - What No One Will Tell You!" (March 2006).
Please visit for details on her new radio talk show, Inside Parenting Success.


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