By Jodie Lynn
My sister is turning 40 next month and thinking about having another baby. She has a 10-year-old but is now remarried. Is this a good idea? She will sometimes have an asthma attack, especially when under stress.
ANSWER FROM READER:
I had my first baby at age 19 and another one when I was 41. I also suffered from asthma and allergies. As long as your sister is under a doctor's care and well monitored for both the pregnancy and for asthma, things will most likely go well. There are certain drugs that she can take while being pregnant but only those that her doctor approves. There are more women in their early to late forties having babies than ever before. The key is not to listen to all of the nonsense and hear-say that friends and relatives seem to think that you need to hear about potential problems. While there may be a few hiccups with the pregnancy, most are not life-threatening to the unborn baby or to your sister. - G.N. in Raleigh, NC
It almost sounds as if your sister is already under constant stress and you feel like either the pregnancy or the baby or, perhaps, both will only add additional frustration to her life leading to even more asthma attacks. If her husband is in agreement with having another baby and they feel comfortable with the stability of their marriage, her health and their money situation, then by all means they can at least gather important information. Of course, this needs to be done with the help of her physician and one or more consultations with an OBGYN. She will be given all kinds of pertinent info for a woman of her age who wants to get pregnant and will probably take a few physical tests and have blood work done to help determine whether or not this is a good idea at the current time. If there are things she needs to work on for a healthier pregnancy, she'll be told of them. The two doctors can also talk with each other and compare notes. Since there are some timely risks associated with having a baby after the age of 35, she will be checked for any weight issues, diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure and any chronic health issues such as the asthma. She should have access to plenty of information on how they can be handled. It is always a good plan for husbands to be included in as much of the details and visits, including all conversations, as possible. This way he will feel more of a part of the entire journey and will be able to offer more support.
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