By Jodie Lynn
My 10-year-old son is having trouble in school with just about all of his subjects. He doesn't like to go and it is a struggle each day to get him up and out the door. There's nothing wrong with him physically or emotionally but apparently something is bothering him enough to make school something he greatly dislikes. How can we get him to talk about it or more importantly, what questions can we ask to try to get to the bottom of this situation?
ANSWER FROM READER:
Our son got into the same situation by the fifth week of school; he wouldnít talk to us or to his teacher. It wasnít that he didnít like his teacher because he seemed to enjoy her. However, getting him up in the mornings was driving us crazy. He would tell us that he had done his homework at school during free time when in reality, he wasnít doing it at all. It put him behind to the point that he felt he would never be able to catch up so he just gave up. We talked to the teacher and she gave us the name of a great tutor who could work with him in the evening. Within a few weeks, he was caught up on assignments and felt much better about himself and school. Talk with his teacher and see if your son might need an outside tutor. Ė Angie W. in Provo, UT
Since there are so many variables in this situation, you may need to help him relax enough to forget about the stress he is currently feeling. If he can do something he really enjoys at least twice a week, maybe he can work out the constant frustration that is causing him to feel inadequate in school. You might perceive this as rewarding his negative behavior but itís actually going to help him to be able to open up to you about what is really going on with school. When children clam up about their feelings, getting them into situations where they can experience success not only builds self-esteem, but also enhances their ability to see things clearly so that whatever it is that is going on doesnít seem so overwhelming after all. It may take a little time but with patience and kind words, he should be able to talk about his challenges.
CAN YOU HELP?
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